Steps for connecting to people

It does take effort to make connection happen. You will need communication skills, a desire to help people grow and change, and a sense of personal mission or purpose because you  have to know where you are going to take others along. This steps will help you connect with people you influence-

Step 1
Never you take people for granted: you can connect with people  and lead them only if you value them. You can't take people for granted for any length of
time before your  leadership begins to fall apart and you won't be able  to connect with them. Sometimes weak leaders get caught up in the vision of where they are going that they forget the people they are trying  to lead.
Step 2
Possess a make a difference mind-set: anytime you don't believe you can make a difference, you won't. How you can cultivate a solid make a difference mindset;

• Believe you can make a difference, because everybody here on earth has the potential to make a difference including you but you can do it only if you believe in yourself and are willing to give yourself away to others.
• Believe what you share can make a difference; because we spend a large part of our little time connecting and communication with people. If we believe that what we share with others couldn't make a difference, we would quit tomorrow. But we know we can help others change their lives, our belief is that everything rises and falls on leadership.
• Believe the person you share with can make  a difference; we all know about reciprocity rule in human behaviour. This implies that if we hold a high opinion of you  and continue to hold that opinion, eventually,  you will come to feel the same way about us.
• Believe that together you can make a big difference; together we can do great things, no one can ever achieve alone what he can do when  partnering with others and anybody who doesn't recognize that falls incredible short of her potential.

Step 3
Initiate movement toward them:
We believe there are many reasons why people don't connect with one another more than they do. A primary reason, especially within organizations is that many leaders believe it is the followers' responsibilty to initiate contact with them.
Step 4
Look for common ground: start where both of you agree, anytime you want to connect with another person, and that means finding common ground. If you have developed "good listening skills" you will be able to detect areas where you have common experience or views. sometimes even when you find common ground you can face obstacles in the communication process. If you detect that people you are trying to connect with are tentative about your approaching them, then try to meet them on emotional common ground. Use feel, felt, found and an excellent way to do that- to help them relate to you.
Steps 5
Recognize and respect difference in personality: as you connect with others, recognize and respect their differences in motivation. Though we are capable of finding common ground with others, but at the same time we need to acknowledge that we are all different and that is one great joy of life though we don't see it that way.
Step 6
Find the key to others lives:
everybody has a key to his/her life and all you have to do is to find it. How you can do it; to understand a person's mind and examine what he has already achieved.
Step 7
Communicate from the heart: once you have initiated a connection with others, found common ground, and discovered what really matters to them, communicate to them what really matters to you. And that requires you to speak from your heart.
Step 8
Share common experience: to connect with others, you have to do more than find common ground and communicate well. You need to find a way to cement that relationship. Look for ways to build bridges with people within your influence especially during the time when they experience adversity. The connections you make strengthen your relationships incredibly and prepare you for the journey you can take together.
Step 9
Once connected move forward: Before you can influence you must connect with them before trying to take them anywhere. It is only inexperience leaders attempt to do it. Before you influence others and desire to get them moving in the right direction, there must be connecting.