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In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Effects of Cohabitation

I have really seen the effects of cohabitation in people's life as my friends talked to me about their different life experiences which are detrimental.

Abortion: Eunice said that during her cohabitation with Ibe, she was taking in almost twice every two months and Ibe wouldn't want the baby because he was not in for marriage then and taking responsibility involved. She continued to abort their babies. They kept on testing their relationship to strengthen
it and to see if they were compatible. After several abortions, lucky Eunice, Ibe proposed and married her. Unfortunately the doctor confirmed her inability to have a baby. It is obvious she will remain barren for the rest of her life, Eunice cried.

Time wasting: Adaobi was my course mate, she always told me that she was living with Nnamdi, also a student in Accountancy department. They were enjoying as Adaobi nearly talked me into doing same. I kept asking her to marry one of her flocking suitors, "I have told you Nnamdi will marry me," Adaobi would always say to me. They cohabited through out our five years in school. After graduation, "Am sorry Ada, i told my parents about you but the dismissed the idea. They said I must marry from our tribe," said Nnamdi. "After everything i did for Nnamdi..." cried Ada.

Now biblically this act is condemned, we defile our body which is supposing temple of God. The good book says that a man and a woman shall come together, live as husband and wife not as cohabiting couple.

Researchers found out that more than half (54%) of marriages between 1990-1994 began with cohabitation.
Isn't it absurd?

Cohabitation has to stop! If you sincerely want to test and drive your relationship, probably it should neither involve eros nor living together. Two months is enough to know him/her.

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