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The Weeping Lecturer

In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Gossiping Dude

"Mmasi may i hear the story of Nwaka now?" requested Ugomma.
" which story?" Nmasi asked.
"The..." she stammered.
"The what," Nmasi queried. When your soup is burning on fire," Nmasi stood up
quickly to help Ugomma bring down her pot of soup from fire.
"oh my soup! What will my children eat?" Ugomma asked in worry. Why
wouldn't she forget herself when Nmasi had succeeded in mesmerizing her with the story of Nwaka.

"Obiekwe was doing well in his farming and palmwine tapping business," Nmasi began her story. "Nwaka was riped for marriage and every member of her family was expecting her to get married. Suitors were trooping into her father's compound anyway but she kept rejecting them. Obiekwe in his mid fifties although went to "Burma war" that notwithstanding he came back and was desperate to marry. So, Obiekwe's mother recommended Nwaka and he accepted.

It was dry season, Obiekwe came with his mother. All this while Nwaka had been eavesdropping on them.
Obiekwe presented to Mbakwe wine of inquiry(nmaya ajuju). Mbakwe sent for his daughter, Nwaka. As soon as Nwaka heard this, she ran away and hide herself. She didn't seem to like him. She thought he was of low status.

When they left she came out from her hidding. Her father was not surprised because it had been her routine that once she set her eyes on any man in her father's compound she concluded he was for her.
 "i don't blame you. So because you think you are pretty, fresh and agile you think you are going to remain like this forever? No, beauty fades. Try making a choice please my daughter," he advised. "papa why are you doing all this? Will you force me to marry who i don't like? Are you in a hurry to have me sold out or you are in a hurry to collect my dowry? For this reason you won't see my dowry," Nwaka asked,

This statement really hurt Mbakwe "the day you get married will be your death," he said with intense anger. His wife, Obinwanne forbade it instantly but the word was effective. She was the brain behind every action Nwaka took. Her mother was always standing by her children and supporting them against her husband.

It was true that Nwaka had her standard six that was not enough reason for her to boast with it always and rejecting every man. Though i heard she was actually waiting for people oversea. Still after her father must have said that, so many were still coming for her hand in marriage even at her late thirties. The worst happened," Nmasi paused. "there was one of our uncles named Egwuatu. Egwuatu was my uncle and Mbakwe's half brother," Nmasi continued.

Egwuatu started using her father's words against her. He was a gossip. His house was situated before Mbakwe's house. So, once anybody would come, it was egwuatu's house they would stop first to ask him questions regarding to Nwaka's character before they decide whether to go for Nwaka or not.

On one of the cases he showcased his gossiping talent was when Obi, a vibrate, good looking, boisterous and financially bouyant young man came to him. Egwuatu also known as Aborki because of his dark complexion and roggish face said, "Nwaka is a cursed child. His father said that if she marries like today, tomorrow that she must die. Do you want to marry a corpse to bury?" asked Egwuatu. The next thing he always said after gossiping is, "ashikorikotakoa," he would smile. Which means that what he just said was lie but it made no sense because his gossip had already scared the suitor.

So that is why Nwaka is still a spinster till today," Nmasi concluded.


Question:
Is it really good for girls whether beautiful or not to be selective when it comes to men? If yes, any gain and if no, why?

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