The negative aspects of anger

The negative aspects of anger are influenced by—

• Our clouded and warped old sin nature—basic selfishness 
• Our temperament and body chemistry—our social and personality style.
• Personal desire, demands, and expectations—to meet our needs.
• Positive and negative modelling from our family origin—parents and relatives who were examples
• Positive and negative personal experiences and interpersonal relationships—watching others around us and our interaction with them. 

But psychologists tell us that there are three reasons why we criticize other—

• First reason is, we criticize the very things we are guilty of doing ourselves.
• Second, we criticize because we are unhappy about something, and we want others to join us in our unhappiness; the misery loves company syndrome.
• Third, we criticize in order to elevate ourselves by lowering the character of others. Know this: to speak ill of others is a dishonest way of praising ourselves.

Anger is a common experience to everyone, although some people struggle with it more than others. Very seldom does anger solve problem, or make a situation better. 

Anger doesn't solve problems. In rare cases, righteous indignation has ended child abuse, spousal beatings, and other social problems hence this is the exception, not the rule. Most of the anger we experience or are the recipient of has negative consequences. YES IT HAS CONSEQUENCES! ALWAYS BE IN CHARGE OF YOUR EMOTIONS!

See "strengths and weaknesses"

See also what about anger? 

Next we shall be looking at the consequences of anger...