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The Weeping Lecturer

In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

My husband, preoccupied with self

Wife: Sweetheart, the plumber didn't make it on time to fix the leak by the gas cooker cylinder today.
Husband: uh, uh-huh.
Wife: so because the gas cylinder leaks there was fire ignition and explosion as a result of Gold trying to lit the gas cooker.
Husband: silent please. It is third down and goal to go.
Wife: it was bad that Gold nearly got burnt.
Husband: whoosh, they have got a man
open. Please shoot! Now touchdown!
Wife: the doctor said she will be fine in a week time, but the flame piled off her flesh from her right hand.
Hushand: i am famished, can you get me something to eat with chilled wine from the refrigeration?
Wife: the plumber finally came for the fixture on having knowlege of how worst the gas cooker's condition was he said that he was excited because he can now double his bill. And now he can also afford to go on vacation. I was upset with him.
Husband: aren't you listening? i said i am hungry! Get my food!
Wife: And Henry, i am leaving you. The plumber and i are traveling to maimi tomorrow morning.
Husband: This is one trouble around here, nobody ever listens to me. Can you please stop all this blabbering and get me something to eat and wine to quench my thirst?

The husband was actually watching television program when the wife entered and was trying to engage him in conversation.
What a dramatic scenerio! 
Being preoccupied with self is one of the "barriers to listening", it can really distort effective listening. Especially couples should always try to avoid this, because it makes your partner feel stupid which can result to serious misunderstanding.

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