What about Anger?

Anger is a universal emotion—everyone experiences it. Sometimes we are the ones who are angry; Sometimes we are the recipients of other people's anger. Anger is a God-given emotion just like fear. Anger and fear are our friends if: our anger is toward injustice; our fear protects us from harm. However, anger and fear can become our enemies if we turn them toward hurting or running from issues that need to be resolved. 

However, anger can express itself
actively or passively. Active forms include criticism, sarcasm, and ridicule. Some people seem to get pleasure from putting other people down. 

The active forms of anger can become more severe through gossip,  humiliation, and slander. These forms seek to destroy the reputation of others. Anger is also revealed through physical acts of bullying, beating others up, and murder. Suicide is also an extreme act of anger;  the individuals becomes angry enough to kill. They murder themselves.

Nothing is quite so powerful and hurtful as shutting off communication with others. Many people who are upset do not like to admit they are angry. To express their emotions they use words such as: annoyed, irritated, frustrated, and exasperated. Research indicates that men are more likely to become angry over inanimate objects. Women, on the other hand, generally get angry at other people because of real or imagined slights. Neither sex has patience for the other's methodology. Men can't understand how women can get so upset over relationships, and women can't understand how men can get so angry at inanimate objects.

Anger is a strong component in the emotion of depression. It is possible to be angry without being depressed, but it is not possible to be depressed without being angry. In questioning process, you can be asked "What's your sleep pattern like?" "Are you aware of anger directed at some individual or a circumstance that is difficult" "Is there some hurt or loss that has come into your life?" Often anger is the key that leads into the hurt or loss that has not been dealt with or resolved. 

Another question is——are you an angry person? Do you display your anger in an active or passive way or have you become an expert in displaying your anger in both active and passive forms? 
Now learning to deal with anger takes two basic tracks——

• The first is dealing with anger before you become angry.
• The second is dealing with anger after you have become angry. 

Dealing with anger before you become angry is preventative maintenance. It is learning how to identify and stop anger before it takes control.

What you must know is that anger has power to control your thinking process unless you keep in check. If you are angry with someone or something, it can become an obsession. Anger can keep you up at night. It can ruin your health and destroy your relationships. Anger can cost you your job. Anger can become a way of life for some people.

Always assess your emotions...

See also "Anger makes difficult situation worse"