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Steps to temperament adjustment

It appears that most problems that arise in most marriages are basically temperamental. Here are some steps to temperament adjustment:
  • Slam the divorce door
Easy divorce has done nothing to help the longevity of marriage. I found out that as long as the divorce door remains open,  it retards the adjustment to a happy marriage. If you are a Christian, it's not a legitimate option for you.
  • Admit to yourself that you are not perfect
we have to know that humility is the best possible base for establishing any relationship between two people. That is true particularly of marriage because the couple spends so much time together. True love for another person is built on humility.
  • Accept the fact that your partner has weaknesses
The sooner you face the fact that any one you marry will have weaknesses to which you must adjust, the sooner you can get to the business of adjusting to your partner.
  • Resist all mental fantasies 
Mental fantasies of "if only I had married..." married who? Or saying "if only I had married another temperament." "if I had" is never an option, you should know that this is not a live option, so why not accept your partner's weaknesses?
  • Pray for the strengthening of your weaknesses. God is in the temperament-modification.
  • Apologize when you are wrong
No one is perfect, we all make mistakes. Remember that you don't have to be perfect to be a good partner or person. How to know a mature person is that he knows both his strengths and weaknesses and also develops a planned program for overcoming his weaknesses that includes you asking yourself are you mature enough to take full responsibility for what you have done? That also presumes you will make mistakes.

An apology reaches into another's heart and mind to remove the root of bitterness that would otherwise fester and grow until it choked your relationship.
  • Try to verbalize your love
Everyone needs love and will profit from hearing it verbalized frequently. This concerns men because women always love their men to tell them how much they love them. This is particularly true of women,  whatever their temperament. Verbalizing love is not only a necessity for holding a couple together, but an enrichment of their relationship.

Women thrive on approval, compliments, love. This is a command as well "husbands, love your wives", scriptural it has occurred four times (Eph. 5:26-30)once. Showing her your sincere love by buying her gifts in expression of your love, this is important. She will always appreciate...

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