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The Weeping Lecturer

In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Necessary things to know about listening

There is link between a leader and a listener. For you to be an effective leader you must be quick to listen. Effective leaders are known by their ability to listen to the people. And effective listening requires more than hearing words transmitted. It demands that you find meaning and understanding in what is being said. I learned that, "meanings are not in words, but in people".

Listen simply means to remain voiceless for the other voice to be
heard. It also means to pay close or rapt attention or to hear something
with intention. What's this intention? You want to know something/learn something from the person doing the talking. The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn't being said- they are the things you would like to hear.

It's very necessary that when you are
getting ready to reason with someone, spend one-third of your time thinking about yourself  and what you are going to say and two- thirds thinking about the person and what he is going to say. It's important you observe and maintain such ratio. Always listen twice as much as you speak.

Don't overvalue talking. Many people's attitude about listening is wrong, only few would desire to listen better. Many people overvalue talking and undervalue listening. The truth remains that effective communication is all about listening and not persuasion. Good communicators always know how to monitor their talking-to-listening ratio.
Listening has "benefits"
See also "developing good listening skills " "barriers to effective listening "

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