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The Weeping Lecturer

In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Why we need adjustment in marriage

At times I have nostalgic feeling about courtship. Lust and infatuation carry us away causing distraction as to disconnect our sense of reason in examining our partners. Lovemaking consciousness, eros, we seem to engage more of our time on love affair instead.

This is because we forgot that when it finally results to marriage, we will not be able to deal with some of those weaknesses we earlier ignored. Because it's quite unfortunate that most of us young people after the long courtship most times we still end up with the wrong person(someone we are incompatible with).

What I am saying is that we have to be more careful during "courtship" as to make the right lifetime partner, always bear in mind that it's not a hit and run affair-marriage is a more serious affair, purer than our usual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

Why we need adjustment in marriage is because of the issues that elicit from temperament and issues of weaknesses of partners. And there is need for adjustment of partners to be able to fit in and make good couples.

There are series of steps these couples need to take to rekindle their love. This leads us to steps to temperament adjustment. These steps will go along way to help.

"Steps to temperament adjustment" endeavour to join us on our next discussion...




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