Things you should expect while in courtship

What is courtship? Courtship is to engage or involve in social activities leading to marriage. But one of the wrong ways people go about this courtship which is purposely meant to be sweet and sanctifying process is that the allow themselves to perceive courtship to only courting with their opposites. This has denied the main reasons why courtship is necessary. This act deters partners from taking critical look and deep observation into their partners' indepth character and behaviour as to blend themselves well before marriage.

One of the wrong perceptions of people is that they think they can't be in courtship without making amorous advances at their opposites, which is very wrong. If you know you can't involve in courtship without courting with the opposite it's better you abstain from it.

Why long courtship is preferable

• Time to expose the behaviour or character of the opposite gender.
• Helps to expose the weaknesses of their temperament to their proposed partner. 
• In courtship, you get close and repose confidence in your partner.
• Sharing your feelings together, trying to adjust with them for compatibility.

Another reason is that it allows for exposure of characters like those they will encounter in marriage to reveal themselves.

 While in courtship 

In courtship partners should adapt, 

• Self control: while in courtship the partners should avoid/try hard to wave all forms of urge knowing that the main goal for courtship is to get indepth knowledge of the opposites in all ramification of their lifestyles; learning more of the behaviour and temperamental standing  of the opposite.

• While in courtship partners should avoid copulation and focus on knowing their compatibility status, I have said that before.
• While in courtship partners should avoid courting.
• Intercourse should be avoided completely to avoid distraction and or abusing the main purpose. 
• Sensitive acts, romantic moments at all time leads to eros, so such feeling should be suppressed. I didn't say there should not be any moment of love interlude or expression and talks but please to an extent.

Things you should avoid while in courtship
Avoid distraction in your findings; no compromise, no bias mind.
Avoid feeling urge or starve
Avoid much sensitive talks
Most importantly, avoid patronage or impartial judgement of your partner's character,as some will close their eyes to any absurd character of their opposites with "I know with time she will change" no, always tackle the weaknesses of your opposites or partners. It's battle for the two of you.

Forget about closing your eyes to pretend you didn't see their character flaws with the saying that love covereth all. I tell you, "love is blind not when it comes to marriage"-when you two are finally married you will know that love is not blind at all time.

See also "Why we need adjustment in marriage"