How To Make A Good Friend

Many scare away from making friends because they don't know the type of person they will make friendship. But the truth remains that friendship offers good reward and you

probably don't  need to be convinced about it. What do you think of friendship?

Anybody can be a very good friend with the opposite gender that doesn't mean they are having an intriguing relationship or affair or they are dating. Someone may have the same gender as a bosom friend they can confide in each other and share more sensitive information with them that still doesn't mean they are having or engaging in abominable and unacceptable affair like gay or lesbianism.

There are places one can make friends. It could be in the church, school, someone goes playing tennis, at the gym, recreation suites or goes to a baseball game centre. Shared activities are the point for men. But let me add that Christian men can take male friendships to a deeper level. They can come to a point or level of true transparency, loyalty, honesty that makes friendship a source of important accountability and encouragement.

African men unlike American men are good at making real male friends, could it be that they have time for friendships. I believe that due to the work structure of workdays, personality or priorities or even our culture. The truth of this remains that men without friends if they are sincere or pure it honest, experience a real emotional void in their lives. Men often experience a degree of distrust around each other unlike women who have an easier time with friendship and have experienced different levels of friendship than men do.

African culture doesn't restrict a woman from being very close and intimate with each other  but men to an extent. Here culture permits women, can hug each other, cry, hold hands and even walk down the street interlocking their arms but this is not so with men for they aren't going to be as free as women.

Friendships spill over into the other important relationships of life. And people without friends usually have reduced capacity for sustaining any kind of love. This one I am about to say right now affects me—people without friends experience hard time to connect and flow along with colleagues at work or social gatherings.

It is good to experience the truth about friendship—the value of friendship extends beyond emotional closeness and connectedness. Research has it that lonely people live  significantly shorter lives than the populous people. Many believe that it is better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

I find it very hard or difficult to love not like I am a hard nut to crack because I believe that my fellow girls are usually jealous of me the reason I don't know. They fear of being hurt by them restricts me from keeping friends. This extends to keeping male friends too because sure they will hurt if given the opportunity. Though that is a personal belief or thought or feelings about friendship. The truth is that living a lonely life is worse mistake any human can make. Having in mind that life is all about risk. If a warrior is scared of gun, probably won't go to war. 

Having realized the significance of friendship that a friend contributes to your being of happiness, strength and understanding remains a sustainable strength you have in an altered world. No regret to have a friend or make a right person your friend.

How to make a good friend

Friendliness: if you want to have a friend you must be friendly. Though the process of making a friend could be tasking. First thing first you need to find a friend before then you will be able to make them your real friend and keep them as your lasting friends.

On our next post I shall let you know the steps you should take to finding a friend. 

Read also 10 top steps to find a friend 

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