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At times I have nostalgic feeling about courtship. Lust and infatuation carry us away causing distraction as to disconnect our sense of reason in examining our partners. Lovemaking consciousness, eros, we seem to engage more of our time on love affair instead. This is because we forgot that when it finally results to marriage, we will not be able to deal with some of those weaknesses we earlier ignored. Because it's quite unfortunate that most of us young people after the long courtship most times we still end up with the wrong person(someone we are incompatible with). What I am saying is that we have to be more careful during " courtship " as to make the right lifetime partner, always bear in mind that it's not a hit and run affair-marriage is a more serious affair, purer than our usual boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Why we need adjustment in marriage is because of the issues that elicit from temperament and issues of weaknesses of partners. And there is ne

What is courtship? Courtship is to engage or involve in social activities leading to marriage. But one of the wrong ways people go about this courtship which is purposely meant to be sweet and sanctifying process is that the allow themselves to perceive courtship to only courting with their opposites. This has denied

Is there anything opposite than male and female? Yet they still attract each other after so many decades. In fact, the future of the race is dependent on such attraction. But unfortunately they fail to realize that their physical differences are only symbolic of the many other differences in their nature, the most significant of which are " temperaments ". Good to know, a negative is never attracted to another negative and positives repel each other in any field.

In Africa women are to be submissive and under the Supreme protection and control of her man. In Africa women are being treated as slaves by there men- " domestic violent " but I don't think that revolts of wives against their husbands can remedy this obnoxious situation. Because it has taken over as lifestyle. Sadly, men are taking their women for granted. However, this, notwithstanding, women are now bent at going extra mile, beyond the men imagination, just to retrieve and or to recover their status quo (pride of womanhood). "what a useless woman, I don't even know why I married you," Kelly said. Each time he finished beating Jennifer, he feels great of the real man he has become. This didn't last, that one day, Jennifer bumped into an old friend. She took her to one white chalk native doctor. From that day on, everything about Kelly changed. People were surprised to see Kelly do all the house chores, receiving command from his wife. His obedien

Life is ever a series of partings. The value of life lies not in the length of days, but in the use we make of them; a man may live long yet live very little. When you enlarge others, you help them make the most of the time they have and raise their quality of life. The great secret of success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up. To determine whether you are still growing, ask yourself what you are still looking forward to. If you can't think of anything or you are looking back instead of ahead, your growth may be at a standstill. The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge. One life, a little gleam of time between two eternities; no second chance for us for ever more. Any day that passes without personal growth is an opportunity lost to improve yourself and to enlarge others. It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. There is a price to pay to grow,  commitment is the price.

You become the thing people say you are if you accept what they say. You live the idea you accept. You become your thoughts. This is why thoughts and ideas are so crucial. People can make you who they want you to be, if you accept their records into your life. If you hear something long enough, you can begin to believe it and live it. If the ideas overwhelm you eventually you might embrace them and store them in your subconscious mind. It's good to know that all human beings

Obidike, a great philanthropist was a real business man. As a mogul, he doesn't joke with his merchandise. He can be father Christmas when it comes to humanitarian services or charitable work. Beside his affluence, Obidike has this charisma which attracts people's respect. "chim oh! Obidike is dead," Oby lamented. People wept for his gone too soon. On the day of his burial during his monument-as he was about to be lied in

I am talking to you, you must believe in yourself that's if you have not already. Let what is inherent and trapped within you develop and come out. It's time to change the way you think. What you think of you is the key.  What are your beliefs about you? What is your philosophy? Philosophy is powerful. Thought is the source of philosophy. The word philosophy comes from Philo, love and sophy-to think or to know. It addresses our way of thinking, our system of

You like to be an empowerer? When you become an empowerer, you work with and through people but you do much more. You enable others to reach the highest levels in their personal and professional development. Empowering is giving your influence to others for the purpose of personal and organizational growth. It's sharing yourself -your influence, position, power and opportunities- with others with the purpose of investing in

It was a sunny day, "the gods are blind," Titi mocked. "Rubby, Rubby!" Titi called out. "this is not ordinary!" Rubby said. It wasn't easy for Rubby to smuggle herself out of the gate due to her fat body. "come and hear what am hearing, this is really heartbreaking," Titi said. "just because you noticed everything is costly in the market, is that why you called me out here? I think your brain has entered voice mail, that you now lack understanding, you don't

Zion was a very nice and gentle man. He was a business man, doing pretty well in aluminium business not until he decided to join politics. His reason for joining was "I need to be influential, a man of affluence, I don't think my business can give me the type of fame I need," Zion said to his wife, Omali. Zion was a noble, upright, good man with outstanding " character "/wonderful repute no doubt but he was an ambitious man, who could go extra mile to meet to his want.

We shall first look into the meaning of the two; integrity and character.               what is integrity ?  Integrity is the manifestation of character, which is oneself of self. The protector of leadership and the preserver of vision are integrity and character. Integrity is the essential prerequisite for successful leadership. Integrity is from the root meaning "integrated" or to be "one". It's quite unfortunate that within this few years there has been alarming of

Get out of the rat race. After all, if you win, you will simply be the big rat. Stop running in the competition. The only person you should compete with is yourself. "how well am I performing in my leadership spot," is what you should ask yourself. You have to know that the battery does not compete with a spark plug, because the battery knows the spark plug can never be a battery, and so on. They sit in the engine in their spots and serve the engine their gift without competing

Addressing character flaws  As you explore, how can you help others enlarge themselves, you need to address any character issue they may have. Integrity is the foundation upon which everything else must stand on people's lives. No matter how much enlarging you do, there is going to be trouble if the foundation is not solid. As you examine the character of others,  remember to look beyond their reputation. "character is like tree and reputation like it's shadow. The shadow

Sadly, Ogochi a two year old toddler was molested by a forty-five year old man, Ekene. Ogochi was a very beautiful girl, but it was very exciting to learn how to walk, seeing herself stopped crawling to walking freely on her own gives her joy that, she began to enter one neighbours room to the other. She was loved by many as a toddler and pretty girl. The interesting thing about her was her cheerfulness coupled with her tender and soft body, she attracts

Robisco, the owner of Robisco petroleum/ oil and gas station was kidnapped yesterday in front of his resident's gate. Robisco is a wealthy young man, who returned from overseas to Nigeria few years back. A year after his return, he innovated his late father's petroleum station and branded it with the service name, Robisco gotten from his name Robert. He began to do exceptional well in his petroleum business. It was magical to people till now, how his business keeps booming, that it flamed up conspicuously to its unexpected success. His sudden affluence, however attracted much attention. He has made so much investment in the city lately, including buying land properties, buildings. The latest investment he is on to is his extension of Robisco petroleum station which sprang up the envy of many. He was about to enter into his resident last night, his attempt to open the gate, unknown men surrendered him and shot him up with guns, he remained silent as they dragged him into t

Accomplishers are men and women who can delay their temporal desires for pleasures in order to achieve their objectives. To get what you really desire out of life, you may need to do what your flesh hates so that you can achieve what your soul desires. Accomplishment of life objectives and purpose is simply the act of putting your goals and objectives in effect perhaps with effort. This means that in accomplishment of purpose your greatest efforts are needed. At times we delay our destiny through the attitude we put up. We have to gain our designed best future with much effort. This means no matter the challenges, the circumstances trying to prove beyond us achieving our destiny, we have to challenge them all that's what makes us accomplishers. Though we believe that destiny is the ultimate agency which we believe to have the power to predetermine our course of all events that take place in our life. Purpose is your reason for creation. The gift which you must utilize to affe

Your potency is a function of a sustained visionary lifestyle without which you may begin to expire, or lose followship and influence. Never stop dreaming and seeing. It takes only foresight to capture what the future holds. Vision is like an architectural blueprint placed in your hand; it enables you to allocate your time appropriately in line with your priorities. Let your vision shape you, show you the way,  and direct you.

Great leaders are those who use their position of power to serve; always serving humanity. Mentioning of such leaders, we have great men of valour like, Abraham Lincoln, Nelson Mandela, and a host of others. The first question is, asked yourself, why do i have to lead or to be in power? To serve or to be served? You also must have it at the back of your head that: An unexamined motive is not worth pursuing likewise an unexamined life is

Cherish your dreams and your visions as if they are the children of your soul; blueprints of your ultimate achievement. You need vision and direction for achievement, success and significance. Having eyes without vision is worst than being blind. Every accomplished desire is a product of a trained mind and character. We can't travel without until we travel within. It's the seeds you sow that God

Knowledge  is more of the psychological result; the result of cognition, noesis, perception, reason, and learning is gotten. An important verity about brain is that brain works most effective with consciously retained information. Brain also works for acquisition of knowledge. Sound mind accumulate sound and better knowledge. How much your brain is able to retain information would determine how much knowledge you could accumulate.

Books are extension of our minds and thoughts. Books are the exact copy of our voices. Through expression of ourselves and feelings it's exposed through writing and books are made. The acronym, BOOK : Best Organisation (and) Orientation (of) Knowledge. Best : we expect that every writing/ written material should be of superiority and authority, higher than us. It should be of high standard and qualification to be able to meet our high

At times we face disappointments, hurdles, overwhelming challenges in life, hold tight your pursuit because any pause or delay will mean your destiny pause or delay. Never lose  hope otherwise you will lose hold. The greatest mountain you may need to deal with or conquer if you must success in life is not the one without but the one within "yourself". Discipline requires that you train your mind and your body to work for and

Put up a bad character in the secret expecting no one sees, don't forget that the dark sees. The measure of a man's character is what he would do if he knew he never would be found out. Your character is your shadow. It represents you. Character is destiny. Character speaks for you in your absence. Your character speaks of your inherent and acquired nature. Because it's the best total sum of who you are. Character is that which puts it's mark

To succeed in life always avoid defiling acts for it's influence is more powerful than any substitute of expediency which may be created by mere reason. It doesn't keep rather it kills your vision in life. Being single makes it easier for you to use well your controls. If you should focus in life you must learn to say "wait" to your arousing drives, or advances, avoid passes made at you and avoid all seductive temptations to keep yourself pure. For the married, you have to learn to say, No to any advances flowing from

The desire for negative expression is by far the strongest and most impelling of all the human emotion and for this very reason this desire, when harnessed and transmitted into action other than that of physical expression. Can raise one to great accomplishment. Don't get it wrong, expression of love in itself is a pure and beautiful experience which God created for marital fulfilment, to strengthen the union bond. Love relates, rejuvenates, refreshes and preserves the sanctity and harmony of the Holy

There are loyal hearts, there are spirits brave, there are souls that are pure and true; then give the world the best you have and the best will come back to you. A teacher affects eternity;  he can never tell where his influence stops. The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be ignited. Let not the young souls be smothered out before they do quaint deeds and fully flaunt their pride. If I shoot at the sun I may hit a star.

I believe you have ever experienced this or felt this way, "I am going to play it safe and do nothing?" This means as you are just wanting to play it safe you end up doing nothing.

Many a man in life does not get to their destination, they never achieve their purpose, they never used their gift, why? Because they live a careful life, always trying to avoid risk. Because they are not willing to do something imperfect or try to do something new. They would never try to face off with their fears and risk failure. Their answer to risk taking is to play it safe. But you can not please God by playing it safe and you can not succeed in life without taking risks. When you are so afraid of failure that you don't even try, you can not please God. Because when you try not to do something because of fear of failure , that leads to barrenness and futility to your purpose in life. See also , " playing it safe costs ". Join us on WhatsApp group chat "Dsoul live talk show" for talks and dialogues on issues that affect us. Kindly send your number to the group Admin. 08038879934. " WhatsApp group " Thank you for joining us!

What's fear? Fear is emotional state of agitation or turbulent situation. It is also a mental state of extreme emotional disturbance. Fear is an emotional experience stirred up as a result in anticipation of specific danger and it usually goes with the desire to flee, probably from the supposed danger. Fear is seen as feeling of nervous, anxiety, apprehensive about a probably or possible situation or event which is bound to happen. One funny thing about fear is, most times we fear that something bad may happen and it may succeed in giving us sleepless nights, keeping us awake all