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In today's lesson I am going to teach you why you are different from your partner. You are well aware that your partner or spouse doesn't react to situations, people, or life in general the
way you do. Right! The reason is simply that God made your partner different from you. In fact, the difference undoubtedly part of what made your husband or wife attractive to you in the first place.
However, now these differences may be a real source of irritation as well. They may even be affecting your love for each other. But that doesn't have to be the case. Hence this:
Temperament
And Personality#
Understanding temperament styles can help you bridge the conflicts and strengthen your relationship. Check the temperament, psychologist agree that human beings are divided into four basic personality groups, they are: Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric, and Phlegmatic. It will be better if I add that it is important to look at your weaknesses as well as your strengths. We all proudly look at our strengths, but few of us like to confront the negative aspects of our personalities—who likes to hear that they are brassy, interruptive, frank, manipulative, insecure, or moody?
If our goal is to know ourselves, then we just look into the mirror and acknowledge everything about us. Only then will we be to decide what to do about those negative traits. Take some time to work through your personality profile why you act the way you act . The two most common combination are Sanguine—Choleric s: outgoing, optimistic people who make excellent leaders; and Melancholy—Phlegmatic s: cautious, introverted folks who like quiet, reflective thinking. Another standard combination is Melancholy—Choleric, denoting a strong and organized person who accomplishes much and really likes to work.
Funnily, rather than evenly into these categories, 60 percent of your traits may fall into one category and 40 percent into the other. If 60 percent fall under "Choleric," you are probably more optimistic, directive, quick moving, and able to organize ideas in your head. If 60 percent fall under "Melancholy" you may be somewhere pessimistic, quiet as you give direction, slower to move, and prefer to do your organizing on paper. What you may not know is that a high percentage of business executives are this Melancholy—Choleric combination.
Just like the Melancholy—Choleric personality, the Sanguine—Phlegmatic will do more in one direction than the other. A mostly Sanguine person will be lighthearted, good-humored, easy-going, fun-loving, and optimistic. So if the Phlegmatic prevails, a person will have a dry sense of humor and be quieter, slower-paced, and more laid back, giving the impression that he or she is not concerned about anything—very different in personalities.
The Sanguine—Phlegmatic are always friendly, relaxed, and appealing people, but they can also be poor handlers of money. They believe that "all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy", they feel a strong tug-of-war between the two and may often be unable to get their careers on track.
It will do us good if we can stop trying to change others and allow them to be themselves. When we allow our partners/mates/spouses to be different from us, our relationships/marriages will definitely improve if not be the best.
You always have to put this in your head that our Creator created each of us to be unique. Accept wholeheartedly those areas where your partner or spouse is different from you. Learn from him, learn from her. Then always offer strengths where he or she is weak and let his or her strengths complement your weaknesses. Read also, best ways to share your feelings with your partner. The result is a richer and understanding relationship or marriage. Don't let your partner's weaknesses cloud your reasoning or make you myopic from seeing their strengths.
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