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Why Touch Is One of The Most Important for Growing A Great Marriage And Relationship

Before you start today's lesson, it may interest you to know, 10 things you should do to have a lasting relationship. In today's lesson, I am going to teach you what you need to know about
relationship and especially marriage relationship. I will not only teach you why touch is one of the most important for growing a great marriage and relationship but also the other 4 making it 5 principles for growing a great marriage and relationship.

1. Free Giving:#

Giving: when partners stop thinking about themselves, and start giving to each other, their relationship improves. Some of the gifts you may be giving each other that have received positive responses are notes sent through the mail, a card of love, words of encouragement, bouquet of flowers, a new book to discuss, time in the evening for conversations, mini-vacation together, and dinner out, thrice a month, at least.

Then you will find out that when you have started giving to each other, it will become easier for you to give to others. Then it circulates and extends to giving to people you don't even know. See also, 5 tips for investing in her .

2. Relating With Your Partner:#

This means connecting in thoughts and meaning in marriage. This can only happen when partners spend much time together talking, listening to each other talk and also learning from each other. And knowing what makes each other tick and ticked. Though this is very difficult for people who don't express themselves well. You may have problem of relating during your early courtship or relationship but by learning how to talk so that you don't blow out your relationship is very important. If it's shyness, you can overcome it so that you have no trouble expressing yourself. It is very necessary our partners teach us how to relate especially gregarious and sociable partners with help from such partners the shy partner will improve in their ability to relate not only with their partner but with others too.

It is very necessary we study our mates or partners in marriage or relationship, we study them thoroughly in order to gain wisdom, understanding, and knowledge about them. We study them by relating to them through open, genuine conversation. Relating doesn't happen automatically. Growing in communication takes a lot of hard, well planned work. And especially married people now, marital wisdom, understanding and knowledge come through many patient hours of relating.

3. Edifying Her:#

When a man lifts his woman up she feels loved.  Communication is a major channel by which we edify one another. If our goal is to lift someone up, we make a choice to be positive in our words and action while around her. 

4. Allowing your mate to be God's Own:#

One of the hardest lessons about trusting God in our marriages and relationships is allowing Him to be the change agent in our mates. Read also, why you should not try to change your partner. It is very important you read alsowhy you are different from your partner.

5. Passionate Touching:#

Touch is one of the most important for growing a great marriage and relationship: 


A loving touch has healing power and communication that we are accepted. If children live with touching parents, they too will learn to touch people in healthy ways and will be touched themselves in adult life. Everybody needs at least one hug a day to stay healthy.

Touching is also an important element in establishing a good relationship. The power of non erotic touching is an excellent way to transmit helpful encouragement to each other. Unfortunately, when choosing a mate we seldom consider if the prospective partner is a toucher.

Some of us come from very affectionate families, some do not. It is hard for non touchers to become touchers, but with prayer and patience and practice, even the most reserved non toucher can become a loving toucher.

Talking to men, the secret is: Most women like a hug, an arm around the shoulders, holding hands in a movie, a gentle neck rub. She perceives your touch as saying, "I love you" and taking her hand and kissing it, touching her shoulder with his flat palm. And touching doesn't always have to lead to the bedroom. Note that very important—which is many times the man's goal. 

Touching from your wife or partner doesn't necessarily mean you will wind up there, either. However, don't always rule out that objective. 

Affectionate touching between the woman and man also signals to people around that the partners love each other. Touching modifies a relationship. Read also 3 most powerful tips that make her fall in love with you in a second 

With these 5 principles, there is something important you should know about marriage before you delve deeper into it. When it comes to marriage according to research;

*All marriages aren't happy; therefore living together is tough.

*A good marriage is not a gift; it is an achievement by God's grace.

*Marriage separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls.

*Marriage is not for children; it is for mature adults because it takes guts and maturity.

*Marriage is tested daily by the ability to compromise.

*The survival of marriage can depend on being smart enough to know what's worth fighting about, making a issue of, or even to mention.

*Marriage is giving and more importantly, forgiving.

*With all its ups and downs, marriage is still God's best object lesson of our Saviour and the church.

*Marriage is worth dying for, if we give it proper honor. We will be honored by all the people around us.

*Through submission to one another we can witness to the world that marriage does work and is still alive.


Read related posts: 

The secret of growing true love that lasts in a relationship

Best ways to share your feelings with your partner

One thing that sustains a relationship

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