In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first
The major fear of change is fear of rejection. All human being wants to be liked. The desire to be accepted by family, friends and business acquaintance. People seek approval from those around us. This is because no one wants to be criticized or talked about (negatively). No one wants to be made fun of. To be caricatured is the last desire of human being.
One of the biggest lies ever memorized by children is; sticks and stones may break my bone but names will never hurt
me. But I tell you mean names really hurt. For one to be given a teasing name is not funny at all. Again people don't like to be discussed or gossiped about, have their reputations destroyed or to be slandered.
To be sincere, we would rather be struck with a rock than have our characters dismantled by words. The reason most people do not confront others with the hurt they feel is because of the fear of rejection. The fear of rejection can paralyze people, keeping them from taking action or making needed changes.
This fear is the strongest; they are the most powerful reasons not to make changes. There are other fears that hamper change, one of them is fear of commitment. This is often seen on the area of relationships. I can tell you that I am a victim of this. I have to share my experience with you. I get scared when it comes to committing in a relationship. To commit to another is a risk and people tend to avoid risk taking. This may be as a result of their previous hurt experience in their past relationship(s). What they forgot is that there is no guarantee that relationship will work out.
Yet I believe that there is no hundred percent guarantees that we might not be deeply hurt if the relationships were severed for some reasons. That would be very painful. This fear of hurt and loss stifle many people and keep them from stepping out by faith and making a commitment.
Meanwhile, the fear of commitment can also be found in the area of employment. Some individuals are so concerned about finding the job that they do not commit to any job.
One thing you have to know is that when people who cannot make commitments bounce from one job to another. Sometimes the bounce from one relationship to another, it's a problem of lack of commitment.
However, this fear of hurt and loss overpowers their lives and destroy their ability to make decisions. We have another which is fear of success. As strange as it seems people are fearful of achieving success. The concept of being successful is no strange to them that the thought of blooming overwhelms them. It is so unfortunate that these individuals usually have low self esteem or image.
They find it difficult to see themselves as successes. And therefore being a failure, or maybe just average, is a familiar and comfortable way of life. And being a success would mean that their lifestyles would have to change. More so, being successful mean they would have to face the unknown, the fear of rejection, and the burden and commitment to continue to succeed. This cause them to remain average, mediocre or failures at the end. See also "fear of failure"
See related post, "why a lot of people do not end well"
One of the biggest lies ever memorized by children is; sticks and stones may break my bone but names will never hurt
me. But I tell you mean names really hurt. For one to be given a teasing name is not funny at all. Again people don't like to be discussed or gossiped about, have their reputations destroyed or to be slandered.
To be sincere, we would rather be struck with a rock than have our characters dismantled by words. The reason most people do not confront others with the hurt they feel is because of the fear of rejection. The fear of rejection can paralyze people, keeping them from taking action or making needed changes.
This fear is the strongest; they are the most powerful reasons not to make changes. There are other fears that hamper change, one of them is fear of commitment. This is often seen on the area of relationships. I can tell you that I am a victim of this. I have to share my experience with you. I get scared when it comes to committing in a relationship. To commit to another is a risk and people tend to avoid risk taking. This may be as a result of their previous hurt experience in their past relationship(s). What they forgot is that there is no guarantee that relationship will work out.
Yet I believe that there is no hundred percent guarantees that we might not be deeply hurt if the relationships were severed for some reasons. That would be very painful. This fear of hurt and loss stifle many people and keep them from stepping out by faith and making a commitment.
Meanwhile, the fear of commitment can also be found in the area of employment. Some individuals are so concerned about finding the job that they do not commit to any job.
One thing you have to know is that when people who cannot make commitments bounce from one job to another. Sometimes the bounce from one relationship to another, it's a problem of lack of commitment.
However, this fear of hurt and loss overpowers their lives and destroy their ability to make decisions. We have another which is fear of success. As strange as it seems people are fearful of achieving success. The concept of being successful is no strange to them that the thought of blooming overwhelms them. It is so unfortunate that these individuals usually have low self esteem or image.
They find it difficult to see themselves as successes. And therefore being a failure, or maybe just average, is a familiar and comfortable way of life. And being a success would mean that their lifestyles would have to change. More so, being successful mean they would have to face the unknown, the fear of rejection, and the burden and commitment to continue to succeed. This cause them to remain average, mediocre or failures at the end. See also "fear of failure"
See related post, "why a lot of people do not end well"
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