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The Weeping Lecturer

In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Family tie quotes

Remember the choice you make today will determine the kind of marriage you will having the years to come, so choose wisely, choose love for a lifetime. A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. Love is a fruit in season at all times and with reach of every hand. Anyone may gather it and no limit is set. Everyone can reach this love through meditation, spirit of prayer and sacrifice, by an intense inner life. Love cannot be forced; love cannot be

Worst of domestic violence

Omalicha was my cousin who got married at her teen. Nineteen is not that early anyway but no doubt she was still a teen. She was dark in complexion with round face endowed with beauty as people gave her the compliment "black is beautiful". She was very quiet and had good character. In fact, she was a "good breed". Always cheerful with sense of humane. I can testify that she had manner of etiquette. "Omalicha, Omalicha!" Nwokocha

Acts that show affection

Seriously these acts are worthwhile, try to act them today I am sure the tips are lovely, sure will help build a good relationship. When traveling, give her a rose for each day you will be away. Place a flower on her pillow. Fly a kite together. I tell you this is deeper than it sounds. Give it a deep thought. Remember to write 'I love you' on the bathroom mirror with a piece of soap. Time and effort spending are usually more appreciated than money spent. If possible write a song, pen a poem, compose a love letter, jot a love note. Give a romantic dinner out. Wash and vacuum her car until it sparkles like new one.  Wash her hair for her. She will love it. Call your wife from work just to tell her you love her. Send her a telegram as well. Very necessary, cuddle up in front of a roaring fireplace- no TV, no children, no phone Brush her hair for her. Bring home and watch her favourite video. By doing all this, you will notice that she will reciprocate, and you wi

Communication in marriage

Communication is the key to every marriage. Lack of communication is the number one cause of divorce in our recent day marriages. It's true that everyone was born with one mouth and two ears- which are the basic tools for communication. Meanwhile couples must learn how to use their mouths and ears properly for true communication to take place. I can simply put it that communication is the process- either verbal or non verbal, of sharing information with another person in such a way that he or she understands what you are saying . Talking, listening and understanding are all involved in the process of communication. There are three basic elements in proper communication: talking, listening and understanding- without these three there is no communication. It's important we look at each briefly: Talking : we are usually willing to talk but one of the problems is that most of us have little difficulty talking. We are usually willing to give an opinion or offer advice even

Ways you can show commitment in marriage

Recognizing and meeting these needs for one another see  " men's needs and women's needs " will mean a stronger marriage and the ability to get through the rocky times that come- though we are focusing on ways you can make a woman feel loved , so I will be skipping over the areas that concern the man, nevertheless I consider and regard their needs just as important as the needs of women. The woman feels loved when you are willing to help her out. Don't wait to be asked before you can help- just help because asking her won't be really romantic and recognized after all. And always remember to look her into the eyes and say to her, "just another way to say I love you".  Remember it's scriptural that two are better than one because they have a good return for their labour. For if either of them falls the other one will lift up his companion. But woe to the one that falls when there is no another to lift him up. Reaching out to help and acceptin

Differences in humans view

In justifying this, we are going into emotional aspect of marriage which is marriage builder. Most of us are ignorant though others are deceiving themselves but I have to clear our doubt on the controversial assertion that men and women view sex the same way. One basic difference between men and women is the way they approach and view life- and some of those differences are not hard to understand. First, the potential consequence of eros- bearing a new life- have far greater ramifications in the life of a woman. In addition the connection between eros and love is much closer and more important to women than it is to men. To women pronouncing your love for them keeps boombing their heart. They always like to be told that they are loved. The erotic revolution attempted to erase this difference; in their effort to achieve equality with men, many active women have tried to ignore their fundamental emotional needs. They have sacrificed their lives based on the lie that they should app

The meaning of EVE in the word believe

E xperiencing some wins together: Knowing that failure is a part of moving forward in life is not really enough. People need to believe they can win for them to really become motivated to succeed.  Try to encourage people to perform tasks or take on responsibilities which you know they can handle and perform better. Put them in a position to experience small successes just to help them believe they can achieve victory. V isualization of their future

The deepest meaning of the word believe

B elieving in them before they succeed : I am sure you have noticed how many people support a sport team as soon as it starts winning. What I am saying is everyone loves a winner. It's easy to have faith in people who have already proved themselves. But yet it is tougher to believe in people before they have proved themselves. Alright don't worry yourself I will tell you that they key to motivating people to reach their potential is BELIEVING IN THEM BEFORE THEY HAVE

Why you should believe in people

We have an easy time believing in people and expressing that belief but yet we realize that not everyone had the benefits of a positive upbringing. It's needful to learn how to have faith in others. Building your belief in others, you have to try using these suggestions, created. Use the initial letters of the word BELIEVE- acronym We shall look into it this way: B=believing in them before they succeed E=emphasizing their strengths before

The Tot Messenger

Honourable Abu, honourable Abu!" a voice came from within. Whose voice could this be?" Abu asked. The voice came  again conspicuously. I don't think I recognize this voice, I have to wait until I confirm. "Good morning my Chairman," Bakar said as he bowed in humility. He dipped his hand in his pocket and brought out a khaki envelop and handed it to Abu. "I received this letter this morning, I thought it wise to bring it to you as the party chairman" He looked at Bakar surreptitiously and slowly opened the envelope to unfold the letter in it. It read, " In honour of your office sir, I hereby represent the voice of the people. The people are crying, they are suffering. The roads are bad. Market places are flooded. People are gnashing their teeth. This has passed recession. No job opportunities for young graduates and those with school certificate. What is our government doing?  Poverty is striking the masses, hunger and starvation increasing by t

A short story collection

Mind you a short story collection is quite different from anthology of fiction. The distinction is very simple: Anthology of fiction is a collection of short stories from more than one author; a short story collection is a book that contains different short stories written or composed by one author- fictive narrator. Back to the topic of today, we shall be looking at the different short stories probably going with the themes, settings, narrative techniques are likely not going to be similar- with diverse mode actually. Expect not just interesting, hilarious at times might be rip-roaring short stories(fictive) but educating and inspirational stories- enthralling. But then you have to bear with us because the stories are actually going to be coming to you in bit like a snail pace- here you go- goggle! " The tot messenger "- by Hope Mbadugha (GM)- a display of her fictive talent, your award winning fiction- can't afford to miss! Click here to see " the tot mes

How can I overcome confusion?

Most of us are scared of confusion but you are getting it all wrong. Meanwhile don't be scared of confusion instead be ready to accept or embrace it. What you should be afraid of is, "are there really available options?" Rather you should ask questions such as; Can I get a nice option that would be decisive, realistic and at same time realizable?  How can i overcome confusion when it's driving me crazy? Don't bury your thoughts in that problem, abide by this rules to overcome your confusion: Rule 1: You need someone to talk to- Share your problems with a confidant  Rule 2: Don't just open up your problems to anyone you see around you- the available is not advisable. Rule 3: Disclose your problems by stating them clearly but succinctly- just hit the nail on the head.  Rule 4: Pick the valuable points and solutions and the chaff should be left over.  Rule 5: You have to be wise enough to know good advice. Rule 6: Don't take every suggestion, opti

Challenges of confusion

These are some of the challenges of confusion; Facing numerous alternatives- Won't be able to understand the priority- At times the person ends up aimless- Feeling indecisive- Any leader who has no experience of confusion is no competent leader. A competent leader must have confused moments in order to look out for a better way to fit in adequately for the purpose of his leadership position. Every great leader when faced with challenging situations importunately seeks for solutions- at times faced with ugly situation of "I don't know what to do" "what decision is right to take to better lives of the masses" "do I choose this option or that?" Many questions arouse but all confusing him- in the bid to satisfy the people. Confusion-sometimes it comes in form of a state of dilemma, all is to build the leaders capacity, strengthens his weaknesses. It helps him to know his strengths and weaknesses, anyways. It's in his confused state to m

Benefits of confusion

Confusion is needful in everyone's life, it's in your confusion that you think and nurture many ideas. I know that by now many of you are already thinking how is confusion needful?  but you don't have to worry your head over the assertion, I'm here to explain the 'why' Alright! Confusion is most times result of mental state characterized by a lack of clear thought and orderly behaviour. Always embrace confusion. Everyday, we go out forgetting confusion because it seems we are doing fine in our work, business or career. We feel everything works

What is life and its game?

Those who limb are better than those who walk. The former will always move on a snail pace, getting composure acquaintance, master the route of their destination and being observant to the rules of the game of life, think before they make the next step, getting to their destination though late but successful; those who walk move faster than their shadows to get to their destination on time- desperadoes; Desperadoes end up with little or no success- solace at last.