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In the morning, the heavens opened and it began to rain. Bella grabbed her umbrella to get to school, as she walked out of the hostel the first

Why you should honour and speak your feelings

To honour and speak your feelings is healing to your heart.

Let's start it this way, do you know what you are feeling at this moment? If you do, then do you speak up and share your feelings? When you honour your feelings, you come to your own aid with empowerment. Listening to your feelings gives you information that helps resolve inner struggles and needs.

Without knowing your feelings, you neglect a basic need that enables you to be happy and free. And as a habit stuffing down feelings leads to a practice of low self esteem. It sends a message that you and your feelings are not important or that are not worthy of being known.

Instead of you being defined by your feelings, look at your feelings from a point of observation and learn about yourself. Do you know why feelings are interesting? Because they tell us when we feel free, anger, hurt, guilt, sadness shame as well as when we feel like crying. Our feelings tell us how we view ourselves. They also help us identify what makes us feel touched, joyful, optimistic, glad, calm, free, grateful, relieved as well as proud.

Meanwhile, there are millions of feelings. You have to learn how to identify your feelings—negative or positive—without fear? Can you give yourself permission to look at your feelings regardless of others' opinions?

When we talk about honour your feelings, it means that you are open to know them. And you have to open to speaking up to honour them.

Though it's true that some feelings are so overwhelming that it may take courage to face them. However, once faced, they can receive your love and honouring. It's also true that some of us have been conditioned to think that certain feelings are wrong. And most times we feel ashamed for even feeling them!  So we accept false belief that when those feelings arise, they should be ignored and not to be examined.

The problem is that we all suffer from not knowing our feelings. And without knowing and honouring your own feelings, and without speaking up, your actions will fail to represent you and often confuse others. Once you dare to look at negative feelings within, you see how much pain they are causing you.

In other words, by honouring your feelings, you allow them to surface so that you can know yourself and honour yourself more openly. You will also discover how to make better decisions and create new habits see also What habit do you desire to change? that free you. You also learn how to speak your feelings in a loving way.  Then emergence of healing.

Do yourself this favour—love yourself by listening to your feelings, and honouring them, validate your right to feel what is within. That's the secret.

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