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Communication breakdown the major cause of marriage failure. Good communication fastens marriage and builds intimate relationship.

There is something men and women are looking for in marriage. You don't need to guess because I am here to tell you. But know this- for you to be aware of what the general needs of your mate will help you have a better communication with her. We are meant to know that men want four things- you can call it 4s- sincerity, simplicity, sensitivity and stability. While women want- you can call it A4- Attention, Agreement, Appreciation and Appointments.

You can as well add this for a successful communication because it worked for a particular couple I know:

• Being willing to change.
• Knowing that it consumes effort to communicate well. 
• Avoid second guessing your partner- patiently wait for her to finish during communication.

These are some of the reasons for communication breakdown between your partners. You may recognize one or more of the below as a cause of communication breakdown in your marriage-

• I don't want to talk because he may laugh at me I know.
• My opinion doesn't matter I know 
• I'm scared of what his reaction would be.
• Because I talk so much you stop to listen.
• You must correct me or prove me wrong I know so I wouldn't want that.
• At times I feel depressed to talk.
• Because I get angry easily when we talk.
• I make jokes out of our conversation because I don't like serious conversations.
• The silence between us gets me scared.
• Again I don't like it when am being interrupted.
• We won't agree am sure so I'm afraid 
• You are going to make jest of me, so I don't want that.
• Always feeling defensive when we talk. 

The above are the reasons we harbour as cause(s) of our communication breakdown. It is good to try to avoid them as soon as you identify any.

However, to avoid or prevent communication breakdown- find out the problem and make haste to plan a program that would help overcome it.
It may be that you are not communicating better as a couple because you have never opened the line of communication. You have to wire it to connect the communication channel not only between you two but involving God, yes.

Though the barriers of communication may be great in some cases and you have to break them down perhaps by involving a spiritual counselor or a therapist to help in the repair so as to have a good "communication in your marriage".