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I can't find my charger," complained Tobe. "My cell phone is off." "What are you talking about? Relax, feel at home," said Jide. Tobe was restless that fateful night. Jide knew she was referring to

One of the tests of leadership is to recognize a problem before it becomes an emergency. Out of every crisis comes the chance to be reborn. What you think means more than anything else in your life. The size of the persons and the quality of their attitudes are more important than the size of any problem. Commitment gives us new power no matter what comes to us, we never

Here are some vital points to note: Integrity is your best friend. And one of the best friends that your friends will ever have. When people around you know that you are a person of integrity , they know that you want to influence them just because of the opportunity to add value to their lives. They don't have to worry about their motives that much . Unless you have tried to do something beyond what you have already mastered you will never grow. A leader discovers the hidden chasm between where things are and where things would better be and strings up a makeshift bridge to attempt the crossing . Passion and compassion are compelling motivators. Great men and women of history were great not for what they owned or earned but for what they gave their lives to accomplish. Click here No man can deliver the goods if his heart is heavier than the load. Listen with your heart and you are likely to discover the things for which others are willing to give themselves. Some

Consider and give attention to these: Take cognizance of where they need to go : it could be surprising to you how far off track some people can get when trying to reach their goals. You should know that people who have not experienced success yet often have no idea of what it takes to get from where they are to where they want to go. They keep engaging themselves into different activities simply because they don't recognize that they can take an easier path. It's your work as a navigator

What is that they wail for ? This means that you really need to identify what touches their hearts if truly you want to know where they want to go- that's their destination. To know what others are willing to give themselves always listen to your heart and sure you will discover them. What is that they make melody of ? You must know that the things that weigh people down is quite different from the things that touch their hearts.

Let me start by saying that a leader is one who sees more than others see, who sees farther than others see, and who sees before others do. Navigation has to do with movement and any movement will be progress if only it's in the direction of the destination. It's true you may already recognize much of the potentials of the people you are trying to " mentor " yet you still need to know more about them. You need to know what really matters to them what makes them

By assigning top priority to your friendship : You ask yourself, "how important is my friendship?" Why do you say you don't have time for friendship? but you find time to do other things. If you really want to do something you sure will do it. If really you want to nurture your friendship you will. It will only take time and effort because good, enduring friendships don't just happen. It takes time to build lasting friendships, yes. And you must know that the time you

Courage is doing what you are afraid to do- not taking action without feeling any fear. Courage is fear that has said its prayer. My greatest fear is, let what people believe about me not be less than what I am. Doing the impossible in face of uncertainties makes you courageous actor. Courage is resistance to fear,  mastery of fear not absence of fear. Fear is what kills you before you think of facing what you are bigger than. Give room for fear a minute of your life and face your lasting failure. Your courage is sure if you choose to overcome your fear and fight for your victory. When you are facing threatening situation implore wisdom, tackle your situation. It's better to be " confused " than allowed fear eat your sense of reasoning. One of the cancerous problem we have is that our fears bury us even before we realize that we are bigger than the problem. Fear keeps us away from solutions. The greatest fear is the ignorance of another backfiring a

Integrity is the foundation no doubt it's for loving and enduring relationships. It takes humility to live by principles of integrity. If you were loving person you would be proud of yourself for living in integrity. Integrity sustains and strengthens intimacy in relationships. With integrity in relationships it means no lie. It also means there is no hidden agenda. It also means you can be trusted and there is reliability both your words and actions must be true.

Love questions- go a long way to open hearts in a surprising way. These questions go miles to make way for intimacy. Such questions are: Are you most passionate about what? What is the most significant thing going on in your life at the moment? The best thing going on in your life is what? In your heart what is going on there? Right now what are you thinking? What is that particular thing calling you higher in your life?

A love master relish being the presence of love to everyone. Using such love skills as turning in another's heart. Asking love questions, and " listening " with empathy. To be a love master creates a powerful flow of love that nourishes others, enriches our soul, and attracts the most loving people to us. To summarize it the fastest way to meet the right love mate is to become a love master. Though it may seem like a paradox- Because a love master seeks to give not

It's amazing how quickly we can respond when power is at stake. There is one thing you must know, when you ask the wrong question like- what is the price to sit on your right and left?  You must know this, every position has a price. You don't ask for a position. When you asked, what is the cost to sit there? It's a wrong question dear, you don't ask such. Because the question is never about the position but about cost. For someone you asked such a question to prove to you the question was a

Communication breakdown the major cause of marriage failure. Good communication fastens marriage and builds intimate relationship. There is something men and women are looking for in marriage. You don't need to guess because I am here to tell you. But know this- for you to be aware of what the general needs of your mate will help you have a better communication with her. We are meant to know that men want four things- you can call it 4s- sincerity, simplicity, sensitivity and stability. While women want- you can call it A4- Attention, Agreement, Appreciation and Appointments. You can as well add this for a successful communication because it worked for a particular couple I know: Being willing to change. Knowing that it consumes effort to communicate well.  Avoid second guessing your partner- patiently wait for her to finish during communication. These are some of the reasons for communication breakdown between your partners. You may recognize one or more of the bel

We have treated many topics previously on marriage counseling and now we have to continue from where we stopped- see " Acts that show affection " This time we shall be discussing on investing in your spouse (her) It is worth it when you invest in her it will prove to be profitable and will bring lasting assets to your marriage. Here are the tips for investing in her : Tip 1: treat her with respect. Tip 2: be a good listener.

Becoming a mentor is not easy, yet it's a part that every sincere and true leader must choose to trade on. Because mentorship has to do with breeding and hatching, it has a link with nurturing- bringing out their hidden or unrealized potentials so that they can become active with proactive minds and the mentored will begin to work or operate on those potentials solely and perfectly too. When you give people the motivation so that they can grow when you don't give them the means of doing it, it is problem .

We are going to start with this statement which is common to everybody-'"power corrupts but absolute power corrupts absolutely". Nearly all men can stand adversity but if you want to test a man's character, give him power. I tell you few people in the world today have greater power and influence than the president of any highly influenced countries. Use power to help- if only we know why we are given power or what is required of anyone that has or that is in power