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Besides physically leaving their parents' home, both the husband and wife are to become emotionally and financially independent as well. The marriage relationship and the new family that has been created—is to be the primary source of emotional health, financial provision, security and protection for the couple.
In as much as the bonds of one's parents are everlasting but these connections are to change. The new couple must not make an absolute break from their parents, but they must realize that they are now a family. And that they need to make their own decisions. The new husband and wife must have greater loyalty to each other than to their parents. Today I am going to give you 5 reasons why young married adults should depart from their parents home.
5 Reasons why young married adults should Depart From Their Parents Home#
1. Physical Separation:#
Physically moving from the parents' home is just one kind of necessary departure for a healthy marriage. Husbands and wives also need to depart emotionally. A lot of married couples have never consciously stepped away from their parents' emotional control.
The process of stepping away emotionally will be gradual and that process is harder when strong, controlling parents are involved.
2. Become Responsible:#
The departing young adult may feel guilty about leaving, but such emotional separation is necessary and healthy. It shows you are graduating from assuming responsibility for them rather than responsibility to them. Those are two different things you know? It doesn't mean that we no longer care about our parents—it simply means that we are no longer on parental control. Because we will soon be parents. But adults must continue to honor their parents that is very important.
3. Financial Independence:#
Financial independence is another important aspect of leaving home. Leaving financially means we are free to accept financial assistance from our parents but we are no longer depending on them for the funds we need. It is so unfortunate that many adults have not tried to achieve financial independence because they are counting on dad and mom's money to be there for them.
Achieving full independence from one's parents can be a long or short, easy or rather difficult process. Remember, formally releasing ones children could serve to eliminate a lot if uncertainty, guilt and unhealthy dependence as a new couple works to get established. You also have to know that departure or separation doesn't mean that parents and their married children will never see each other again, No! Rather it means that they are having a new phase of relationship in which parents regard their children as independent adults capable of managing their own homes, their own emotional lives, and their own financial situations.
4. Encourage Couple's Commitment:#
You as a husband, cannot freely give to your wife until you know in your heart that you are more important to her than any other person in her life. Same is applicable to your wife, your wife needs to know that she is the most important person in your life before she can be fully committed to you. We show our spouse that he or she holds they precious and number one spot, when at every level, we leave our parents' house.
5. Permanently bonded and Oneness:#
Our creator's intention is that a husband and wife be bonded to one another permanently. So marriage is not experiment or a trial run. There is more to it. Marriage is suppose to be a once and for all union. This is how it is supposed to be—when a man gets married he won't go out for some time, they spend long time together, this is to give the couple the opportunity to get to know each other and build a foundation for marriage that would last. Only few newlywed have the resources to stay long and quit their jobs or businesses just to bond but I am going to give you some practical steps for all married couples to help reinforce the permanent bond—
Leave your parents house and set up a home of your own.
Spend as much time as possible together.
Reserve the bedroom for sleeping and loving. This means you should let out every distraction from the bedroom like television so that when you and your partner are in the bedroom no distractions. It is Just for the two of you. Couples today don't value permanence that is why the high rate of divorce. But our creator values it because He established marriage
Talking of oneness something bombs in my mind. Becoming one doesn't mean becoming the same because already you two are different people already who have agreed to come as one. Oneness means sharing the same degree of commitment to the Lord, to the marriage, sharing the same goals, and aspirations, dreams, and of course mission in life as a couple.
Meanwhile, oneness between a husband and wife is a process that can take long, it can happen over a period of time—over their lifetime together. I can tell you that becoming one can be a very hard process. Take for instance as a single I can't stop imagining how to begin to share my thoughts, feelings and probably my body with a man as a husband but i can't do anything about it, nevertheless it is meant to be like that.
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